Some people! Pffft!

And by people, I mean my ex.

Yes, he's being the same dominating control monster that he always is, even from 1000s of miles away.

The jerk rotates between being HOT or COOOOLD with the boys, and this is sadly an ongoing cycle in his life that will forever impact the boys' emotional well-being.  When he's being taken care of by someone (another woman, or failing that, by his parents), he's all 'Superdaddy", wants to talk to the boys every day.  When he's been kicked out on his ass, and he's unable to take care of himself (because he's really just an overgrown child who has never taken responsibility for anything in his life), he's a total loser who drops off the face of the planet and out of the boys' lives for months on end.  SERIOUSLY.  No exaggeration.

So, he's all hot and heavy with some broad who's been blindsided by him, and he's demanding daily contact with the boys again.  I mean, he's not taking no for an answer.  He is demanding to know our daily schedule, and wants to know exactly WHEN each and every day we will be available to receive his call.  He cannot accept that we might be too busy on a given day to receive his friggin phone call.  He was saying all kinds of derogatory bull-shit about me tonight in front of the boys, and I have told him time and time again to NOT expose them to that emotional turmoil.  They so don't need his crap, and he should me MAN ENOUGH to address these issues with me personally, when the boys are asleep.  But no, he wants them to be emotional pawns in his game to manipulate and control me every single day.

F(*@ NO!

I'm not going to play into his control game.  He can just LEAVE A MESSAGE like every other reasonable person does when the person they are calling is not home.  People have a life.  I have a life.  Yes, it revolves solely around my sons and their schedules and their needs, and that is my choice.  Well, to be honest, I'd like a little more "ME" time in there somewhere, but basically, yes, I choose to live my life this way.  I take a few moments for myself after the kids go to bed at night, and that's about all I get, just like most other parents.  That's life for a devoted parent.

I'll agree to receive his calls when we're home.  That's fine.  I was hoping to limit the contact to a few days a week, but whatever.... if he's going to go ballistic and give the kids a hairy canary every time we're not home, it's just not worth it.  WHATEVER.  I'll receive his calls when we're home, as long as he doesn't harass the boys about the times when we're not home, and as long as he keeps it all 'nicey nicey' when talking with the boys; no bad mouthing their Mama!!